Thursday,25 April, 2019
Current issue | Issue 1375, (4-10 January 2018)
Thursday,25 April, 2019
Issue 1375, (4-10 January 2018)

Ahram Weekly

A new year, a new you

Let’s talk about better living! Our interactive family corner aims to expand our lifestyle horizons with practical little pearls of wisdom from the editor and input from our readers

A new year, a new you
A new year, a new you

It’s that time of year again when many people make resolutions and pledge to engage in self-improvement in the coming year. This is a ritual performed every January in many parts of the world. Losing weight, exercising more, learning a foreign language, leading a healthier lifestyle, completing regular tasks in a new way or getting better financially —these are all resolutions that come near the top of many people’s list. 

Though the start of a new year is a popular time to set goals for the future and drop some old habits and adopt new ones, some people take this very seriously and work hard to achieve their promises while others don’t follow up or even stop before they have started. “Research has found that by March almost 80 per cent of people have dropped their goals,” said Myrette El-Sokkari, an emotional freedom technique (EFT) expert and happiness coach. 

“Resolutions often fail because they aren’t the right ones for you,” El-Sokkari said, who advises to avoid blame or guilt. “It’s not your fault, and it’s not that you lack willpower if you can’t keep your resolutions. You failed to achieve your goals because you did not really know how to choose your goals and how to reach them.” 

“Consider whether your goal is something you personally want or feel will make you happy or you should do. If you are sure it will make you happy, this will help you to accomplish your goal. But most probably there was a ‘need to’ or ‘should do’ aspect to the resolution, and this can mean that you feel forced to adopt the goal and that it is actually based on outside pressures,” she explained. 

Consequently, if your New Year’s resolution is to be happier, make sure that reaching that goal will actually make you happy. “Your goal has to be your heart’s desire and meaningful for you as well as give you the motivation to take the steps to get there,” El-Sokkari said. The goal has to be yours, not a “should do” goal or someone else’s goal that you have adopted for yourself. 

To help you keep your New Year’s resolutions alive in 2018, El-Sokkari recommends easy steps such as:

- Write your goals down.

- Pick goals that are doable, manageable and meaningful for you.

- Break your goals down into smaller parts.

- Set firm but flexible timelines.

- Know yourself and how you respond to expectations.

- And finally, enjoy the journey.

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