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Current issue | Issue 1125, 6 - 12 December 2012
Sunday,17 February, 2019
Issue 1125, 6 - 12 December 2012

Ahram Weekly

Entre Nous: From doormat to dream-girl

Let’s talk about better living! Our new interactive family corner aims to expand our lifestyle horizons with practical little pearls of wisdom from the editor and input from our readers.


Countless women who fall in love and give their all to their man are shocked when he cheats or leaves, blaming themselves and resolving to be even more giving in their next relationship.
Actually, dear readers, I’d like to put in my two bits here as I just finished reading an exceptional book titled Why Men Love Bitches by New York Times best-selling author and columnist, Sherry Argove. Don’t be put off by the title; the book has sold over one million copies and takes satire to a whole new level as it offers a manual on how women should behave in a relationship. It delivers unique insight as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself.
For those of you who haven’t heard of this book, it basically gives women advice on what they should and shouldn’t do when they start dating a guy and throughout the relationship. The term “bitch” is used sarcastically, not literally, in the sense of “babe in total control of herself.” It’s referring to a woman who refuses to sacrifice all for a man, who values herself enough not to fall into the trap of being her partner’s doormat.

Some of the author’s top principles for attraction:

- Be confident in yourself and your good qualities and know that any guy would be lucky to have you and should treat you that way.
- If someone doesn’t treat you well, then find someone who does. It’s as simple as that.
- You can keep a man interested if he feels like he never completely has you.
- You shouldn’t make a man the centre of your universe.
- The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care too much.
- If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritise her dignity above all else.
- If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind.
- He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.
- When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
- He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dream-girl.
- Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.
- A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she believes in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness.
- Men often automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid.

“What you seek is seeking you.”          

Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi

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