Tuesday,17 October, 2017
Current issue | Issue 1180, (16-22 January 2014)
Tuesday,17 October, 2017
Issue 1180, (16-22 January 2014)

Ahram Weekly

Entre Nous

Let’s talk about better living! Our new interactive family corner aims to expand our lifestyle horizons with practical little pearls of wisdom from the editor and input from our readers.

Happily ever after

While there is no guaranteed formula for preventing divorce, there are a variety of ways you can protect your marriage. Use the spirit of the first month of the year to be open and honest about your needs and about the little and big things you’d like your partner to do. You may both find out some things that are tough to hear, but the truths that emerge help you move forward.

In her book, My Mother’s Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius, Judge Lynn Toler offers the tips below to keep your union strong and steady.

Always communicate: Communication is incredibly important. Talk about everything. Talk. Then talk some more.

Talk right: When you talk, obey these three rules:

- Wait until your spouse is ready, don’t try to explain anything meaningful in the middle of an argument.

- Start where he/she is, restate what was said so they know you heard their position.

- Gently introduce your point of view and a workable compromise.

Learn how you differ: Understand and appreciate gender differences. For example, women need to cut down on how many words they use and men need to increase the number they are willing to listen to.

Keep money in check: Draw up a budget. Write down how much is coming in and how much is going out, and make sure the former exceeds the latter.

Don’t forget romance: Revive regularly, especially if you have kids. Date nights and time alone increase the love chemicals in your brain and help you fall in love over and over again.

Stay in the real world: Don’t trip over technology. When things aren’t going well at home, it’s easy to seek an emotional connection with some person online. Be careful, the only reason “virtual love” is easy is because it isn’t real.

Change your approach: Many couples have the same argument over and over again. If that is what’s going on, change what you say — no matter how much sense it makes to you — because it’s not working.

Keep problems private: Don’t complain about your marriage to people who are usually unhappy in their own lives. Misery loves company, and you could be misled.

Be alert: The minute you start thinking “we’ve got it all worked out,” you dramatically increase the odds that it won’t. Marriage is the job that never ends; it can be a good job, but it is always a job.

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